Mastering Self-Worth: Elevate Your Rates

Your rates are a direct reflection of how you see yourself. The first step in setting your rates isn’t market research—it’s self-reflection. It’s about seeing yourself as the luxury you truly are. When that realization hits, everything shifts.

For me, it happened overnight. One day, I simply saw myself differently. I doubled my rates without hesitation, without second-guessing. And guess what? My clients adapted. Because that’s how energy works—when you believe in your value, others will, too.

But let’s be real—it doesn’t actually happen overnight. 💋

This kind of confidence comes with life experience. The way you see yourself in your 20s is not the same as in your 30s. That’s why experienced escorts often charge more than their younger counterparts. Not just because we’re “better” but because we know. We have the experience. We have the confidence. We understand the worth of our energy, time, and spirit.

The Key to True Control? Independence.

When I first entered this world, I found myself in an apartment with another female, full of burner phones, offering 30-minute incalls for absurdly low rates. Yes, also I know how it is. A so-called “manager” (let’s call it what it is—a PIMP) took a cut - one client per day from each female. 2 females were working from morning till early afternoon and then other 2 afternoons and evening shifts. I was barely 18. I decided to come there of my own will, but...was it really?

It lasted less than two weeks. Still, this is the only aspect of my sex work career I regret. I was too young, lured in. I walked away, stayed away for years, till COVID. And when I returned, I had only one term for myself: this time it's happening on my terms. I set my own rules. I built my brand. Because here’s the truth: If someone else has control over where you work, how you work, or how much you charge—you do not own your value. 

From an economic viewpoint, I agree that such 'multiple incalls per day' services do have their spot in today's world but then, work independently. Particularly in Slovenia, working alone is much safer than being in some apartment under some protection (which is not - it's controlling, and you are exposed. Your face, your identity, everything). Thankfully, yes Slovenia is still safe enough to work completely alone (believe me, I know how huge this is in my case, not every independent sex worker on this planet has this luxury).

Just have some common sense :) So if you really have to choose this path, don't fall into outdated patterns still prevalent from Slovenia through the Balkans. Be a leader, not a follower. 

Yeah, not so fast. Like we once heard: "With great power comes great responsibility." (if you know, you know:)) 

INDEPENDENCE + HIGH RATE + YOUR PERSONALITY = MAGIC

Your personality? Yes, your geniuene self. Who are you?

If a sex worker is not willing to show even a bit of who she/he is - forget about it.  You cannot fake it at 500+ rates. You need to stand out, show who you are, and simply be honest and confident. Be yourself. Own it. Honestly. For me, this is the easiest part, as for many others the hardest.

Market Research & The Pricing Trap

So it was COVID. And I went - this time on my own terms. I started exploring online escort platforms. Firstly I mostly visit clients at their homes as traveling was still limited a lot. I started with 150€ for an hour and then went quickly after a few months to 200€ in early 2021. When for many 250€ was already on the table. 
I thought I should set these rates based on the market and that I am new. That I had to “earn” my way up. Bullshit. That was my perception of myself at that particular time in the market. 

So yes at first, it seemed unthinkable to charge 500+ € per hour. I thought those women were mad. Today, I'm thriving at 600€ per hour. Yes, knowing your market matters. But let’s be clear—if another escort raised her rates and got away with it, so can you. You’re not “less” than her. You don’t have to settle for less either. 

And, yes we need to address world economics. Obviously. Inflation is real. Living costs are skyrocketing. And if I point out my city and country; also here in Ljubljana, Slovenia - things are going beyond crazy, more foreign (wealthier) people are moving in, and rents are skyrocketing.... It is no secret that the living standard has risen here by more than 100%, just in the last two years. And in this case, at least in my common sense, we never lower the price for sex work. We also don't remain the same.

A former Canadian Prime Minister once said: “Donald, you’re smart, but this is a very dumb thing to do.”

The worst that happens? Your rate stays the same (but baby,  150 per hour today or 4-5 years ago is a HUGE difference). The best that happens? You unlock an entirely new level of clients—ones who actually value what you offer. 

HIGHER RATES = BETTER CLIENTS 

And I did mention this also in one of my other blogs - the higher the rate, the wealthier the client, the better the encounter. A more interesting and intriguing one. They don’t expect a race to the finish line. It’s more about chemistry, intrigue, and mind games rather than just sex. For me, that’s where the real fun is. But let’s be fair—not all escorts work like I do. Some really do it for the sex, not just the money and thrill. And that’s fine.

Know your worth. Know your own reasons - and it will suddenly be very easy to charge accordingly. No matter the weather. No matter the economy. 

Elevate Your Rates

For me, recent personal events helped at the end that opened my eyes and I easily stepped up, for myself. Because I am worth it. 

Determining your value starts from within. Work on your self-image, build your independence, and then watch how the numbers align with your energy. And always remember: true empowerment means having the freedom to choose—freedom that no one has the right to take away. Once you master self-worth and independence, the rates reveal themselves.

And I always say: "This is sex work. It should be enough work for everyone, always." (To all jealous competition between the lines - chill, it is all good) 

But before ALL THIS—go and grow up! 

A CRITICAL NOTE: If escorting feels like a trap, something is wrong! This industry should be a choice, not a necessity. If you’re here because you have no other option, then you need to rethink your approach to life, not just money matters. Get help. 🚨Or if you know women who are being controlled or coerced, speak up. 

Oooh yeah,... I would be so happy to find a blog like this few years ago :)  You are welcome. 

xoxo